First, the good news: last week, I had become frustrated with myself for having a few extra pounds -- then I got a shocking wake-up call from a guy friend. Since then, I created a challenge for myself: lose 10 lbs. in 10 weeks, using the Weight Watchers points system.
I stuck with it -- and as of today, my official weigh-in day: (drum roll please) I'm down to 137.8! Last week when I started, I weighed myself twice in one day -- one time the scale registered 142.8, and about an hour later it was 140.8. Big conundrum, which number to use as my starting weight? (yeah, I know, this is a huge problem when compared to ALL the world's problems -- bear with my vanity for a minute, OK?).
If I take the average of the two numbers, it's 141.8 -- which would mean that I'm down 4 pounds! Yes! Big Calorie-Burning Happy Dance!!! Feel free to do a little jig with me.
Now, the Bad News: and of course, it has to do with dating. Been having this really good e-mail banter with AdMan for a few weeks now -- he'll write that he'll call me, we should really meet for a drink -- then no call. (I'd already left him a message once, so now the call is really up to him. Damn, I hate these games.)
Two days ago, I decided to take the cyber-bull by the horns, and e-mailed him, suggesting drinks on a particular night. NO response since then -- up til now, he's been very good about writing back in a time-appropriate manner.
I can't help but feel that I messed up. My best friend often tells me that I need to NOT take the initiative so much with guys -- play a little hard to get, that *they* like to do the asking. I always thought this was a bit old-fashioned -- that as in one's career, if you want something, you should go for it. But I've come across some advice articles recently backing up her theory. It seems that guys WANT to be the aggressor -- the chase is part of the fun for them. Make it too easy, and they lose interest. Kind of like a dog that chases cars -- they don't know what to do when they catch one. (Please note, guys: this is NOT meant to be an insult, comparing you to dogs! I love dogs -- sometimes I even love them more than people)
QUESTION OF THE DAY: (week, year, millenium...) Guys, what's your take on this... would YOU rather be the one to do the asking out? And women, what's worked for YOU? Advice, please!
In the meantime -- I went on a little online-dating blitz, and sent introductory e-mails to about 15 new guys. As they say, throw it against a wall, and see what sticks...