Desperation is SO not sexy.
After a few e-mails with "Chandler" (he resembles Matthew Perry a bit in his pics), I gave him my number. I noted that after he left one message, he tried to call me less than an hour later -- dude, what's the hurry?
Finally, after a bit of phone tag, we got to talking, and I found out that he was visiting family in California, and wouldn't be back in NY for another two weeks. After chatting for about 15 minutes, I told Chandler that I had to get going -- had plans with friends shortly after.
Him: OK, I'll call you tomorrow.
Me: (puzzled, since he was still going to be out of town for a few weeks) Well -- I have a busy weekend ahead of me, let's just try to touch base during the week.
Him: When's the best time to reach you? Afternoon, evening?
Me: Just try me whenever...
Him: Should we talk Monday night? You'll be around then, right?
Me: (getting exasperated) Well, I think I have plans... let's just talk soon, OK?
Next day: he sends an e-mail with three more pics, saying these were "more recent" pics of him. (so why wouldn't they be on his profile?)
And here was the clincher: he told me that he had showed his mom my profile, and I seemed like a very nice person.
Dude -- too much info. This is SO over, even before it's begun. Could this BE any more of a turn-off?
Perfect advice from Cute Jewess:
Danger! Danger Will Robinson! Abort! Abort!
Had another encounter with Hot Young Guy tonight, 18 hours after saying good-bye from our first date last night. I was in a bar with a few friends when he joined me/us. I made the introductions and we had a drink with the group before going off to grab a bite on our own. This is HUGE -- I generally don't introduce new guys to my friends until we're a bit further down the road. But since HYG will probably just be my summer fling, why not?
Why do I think he's just a summer fling, you may ask? A few reasons:
* I get the vibe that he dates quite a lot -- and he said that he hasn't had a serious relationship in several years. (oh wait... that sounds like... um, me)
* He's a few years younger than I am.
* I just sense that we're in different "places".
OK, I know I'm not articulating this very clearly. Let me just put it this way: it's just a gut feeling.
And yet? The chemistry -- wow. The attraction is quite strong. I have a feeling that sex with him would be pretty rockin'-- but I'm going to try to hold out for at least a few weeks. We made plans to get together again later in the week.