If you’ve ever done internet dating, you know how hard it can be to keep these potential dates straight – namely, early on, when you’re still just in e-mail mode. Is Jack the one who just came back from Australia, or was that Joe?
I keep a little notebook with details about each of them to keep them straight. Eg, Jack, 35, 5’11, lives Upper East, lawyer, speaks fluent Japanese, has a dog named Buford.
I recently went one step further – now I keep a Word document on my desktop, broken down by:
Guys I’m excited about – either have a date planned, or have already been out with them, and feel optimistic.
Guys with whom I’m just in the early e-mail stage. In some cases, I’ve already sent them my number (I note the date that I sent it to them). They’re listed in order of my excitement / optimism for them.
“D” list – as in “Doubtful / Back Burner / Possibly Out”.
These might be guys like Hot Young Guy – we’ve had a bit of e-mail banter recently, but I think he’s too busy being a Hot Young Guy with other women lately. Currently the D list also includes Worldly Guy – we went out two weeks ago, he called me a few days later (but didn’t leave a message) – then never responded to my follow-up e-mail. He’s most likely out, but I want to remember his name on the (ha!) off-chance he contacts me – but most likely, he’ll just be deleted soon.
As of today, the A list has no names.
The B list has 7 names. I’m particularly excited about two guys -- let’s call them H and Y for now. A few good e-mails have been exchanged, and I’m hoping to move onto phone contact in time to possibly plan a date with one of them by this weekend.
And the D list has 6 names – sadly, including Witty Banter. I was excited when he wrote to me last week, apologizing about being out of touch. We scheduled a date, which he then had to cancel because of work demands. Time to be realistic about him – he’s just not that into me, and seeing the details written out in front of me makes it all the more apparent.
Other internet daters out there – what’s your method for keeping ‘em straight? Excel document? Squash ladder? Scraps of paper? Do tell.