I’m getting ready for my third date with Smiles – we’re planning a day-into-evening date today. I have a good feeling about this guy – it’s been a long time since I’ve felt this way. I have to keep reminding myself: Simmer down, girl! You’ve only known him a week!
Maybe this is a cliché, but it feels like so much longer – we’ve talked and e-mailed and texted between our dates. There have been a few little moments that made my heart go pitter-patter: he knew I was going to have a tough day at work yesterday, and he texted me in the morning to wish me good luck. When he picked me up for our second date the other day, he told me how beautiful I looked. (that’s especially meaningful: my last semi-boyfriend, last summer’s Bike Racing Guy, NEVER said anything along those lines, a huge source of contention). Smiles actually compliments me quite frequently – and I think he’s quite dreamy-looking as well.
I have to make a decision about this: I was supposed to have a date last night with a new guy, H – this was planned before I even met Smiles. I cancelled the day before because something came up at work (really!), but said we’d talk early next week to re-schedule.
So – do I give this other guy a shot? After all, it’s still early with Smiles, don’t keep your eggs in one basket, and all that. OR… tell him I’ve met someone and would like to see where it goes? OR just procrastinate, and tell him I’m swamped with work this week, or some other excuse like that… and buy a little more time while I get to know Smiles?
You know how they say to go with your gut (whoever “they” are). My gut (and the rest of me) doesn’t want to see anyone else right now. My gut doesn’t want to sit through yet another interview of a first date. My gut wants to cancel the online dating memberships and pack away the notebooks that remind me the little details about each guy.
But then my head (which overrides the gut) says – just go on today’s date with Smiles. Just enjoy it. Don’t overthink this.
For now – head wins. But my gut will surely make a re-appearance very soon. (better cut down on the pizza)