I’m back after a few days out of town, with some updates:
Date #95: the night before I left, I had a one-hour drink with a guy I’ll call Mr. Maybe. I wasn’t overwhelmingly impressed, but he was a nice enough guy. I’d consider a second date, but only if he contacts me next.
Smiles: I left a message on his voicemail just before I went away, no reply. This is quite telling: before my previous trip, he asked me to call him when I got to my destination, so he’d know I got there safely. This time – nothing. Then…
A good friend of mine, also on Match, got an e-mail from Smiles via the Match website – he’s never met her or any of my other friends. She wrote back something along the lines of “thanks for writing – but you should know, you’ve been dating one of my good friends.”
He writes back: “Small world – who’s your friend?” She wrote back “Loverville”. No reply from him.
I think it’s safe to say he’s out of the picture. Not because of this incident (which I actually found quite funny – for such a big city, New York is a tiny place!) – but if it’s not working, it’s just not working. No harm done. It was fun while it lasted.
On the Positive Dating News front: while I was away, I considered writing to UN to plan our next date for this weekend – but I resisted the urge, thanks in part to advice provided by Cute Jewess (thanks, CJ!) to play it cool. I always feel the need to plan ahead, but suppressed that urge this time. After coming home, I found a message from UN, saying that he believed I was coming home that day, and would I like to get together soon? Hopefully I’ll see him this weekend.
Now – re: Smiles. I’m sure he senses as well that this is going nowhere – it’ll be interesting to see what happens from here -- as in, how will this end? Normally, I’d want to close the book by having “the talk” – but since I left the last message and haven’t heard back from him, I’m sure it’s safe to assume that his silence says it all.
But there’s that part of me that wants him to call or e-mail so I can refrain from responding to HIM. Immature? Maybe. But if anyone is going to be pulling the plug around here, I want it to be me!