Out of curiosity, I’ve been doing a bit of window shopping on Match and J-date to get a vibe of what’s out there. So far, what I’m seeing is NOT inspiring me to invest the chunk of change required for “premium membership” – which should simply be called “membership”, because if you want to actually be able to send and receive e-mails, you have to pay the rather steep price. (on J-date, it’s a flat rate of $150 for a six-month membership, or you can pay month-by-month at $40 per. Match is a bit cheaper.)
Costs aside, I’m not feeling especially inclined to jump back into the dating pool at the moment, especially anonymous online serial dating. At least for the next few weeks, the plan is to enjoy some (pardon the cliché) “me” time – catch up with friends, stay busy with work projects, log some serious gym time, etc.
I'm so relieved to NOT have to worry about the TC situation any longer that I don't want to jump into a new dating / worrying situation. Not that dating always has to be about worrying... but there's always that thought process: will he call back? Did he like me as much as I liked him? Did he think I was an OK kisser?
This is the first time in a long, long time that I’m not investing significant time and energy into finding a mate – and it feels pretty good.
Saying that – I do have that first date with Skydiver tonight (the friend of a friend), but am feeling very calm and non-expectant. IF I like him (always a big IF), will strive to keep that relaxed feeling rolling.
This made me laugh – I came across a J-date profile with a picture of a very good-looking guy, nice height, etc. Then I read what he’d written about himself: into cooking, loves the city, blah blah blah… and “masculine, tall, dark, handsome and smart men”. A quick glance at the header revealed that he was in the “men seeking men” category, somehow slipped past my search radar. Too funny! Of COURSE the best profile belongs to a gay man!