** Good for the ego. There’s something to be said for looking at your calendar, and realizing you have five dates lined up in the next week.
** More possibilities = more chances to meet someone you just might jive with.
** I tend to project a bit too early (if I really like a guy, by the second date I may find myself wondering, hmm, would we eventually move into my place or his?) – having other options / distractions helps me turn down the crazy a little bit.
** It can become easy to forget what stories have been shared with which guys. One time, I was IM-ing with a guy I hadn’t yet met (we’d exchanged a few e-mails) – and I told him I hoped he was feeling better, thinking he was a guy who had been sick earlier that week. He called me on it – and did NOT have a good sense of humor about it.
** Even an hour spent on a bad first date can be agonizing – time better spent at the gym, or with friends / family, or volunteering, or just about ANYTHING else. However, I’ve gotten better at trusting my gut, and realizing that no connection by phone generally means no connection in person.
** These dates generally involve alcohol and sometimes food – too much of both (and fewer nights at the gym) can quickly lead to a few extra pounds.
** The tedium of telling yet another new person about your work / life / adventures, etc.
Man update – recent dates:
Fun Bobby: we had a second date – dinner, a cocktail lounge. It was a fun time, with a bit of smooching at the end of the night. He seems quite keen, asking to make plans for the next date even before the night was over, then e-mailing me after he got home. However, these days, I’m allll about taking it slowly. And I’m trying to keep in mind that, in my experience, guys who come on super-strong fade away just as quickly.
One day at a time – anyway, I’m too busy at the moment to see him for another week or so.
Neighbor Dude: date #107. I had a great time with him, and I’d definitely see him again – but I just need to wrap my head around the fact that looks-wise, he’s not my usual “type”. I’m trying to keep an open mind – since I haven’t had much luck lately with guys who supposedly are my type, then maybe it’s time to change the idea of what my “type” may be?
He certainly IS my type in that he seems smart, fun, funny, and open-minded. AND he lives nearby, and shares my enthusiasm for exploring different facets of our wonderful neighborhood. I know, I know… I don’t need to decide today if I’m going to marry him. Simple question: would I like to see him again for another date? Simple answer: yes. That’s all I need to think about right now.
I’d love to hear your thoughts – what do YOU think are some pros / cons of serial dating?