The latest: after three dates, I’m giddy about Good Voice. But more about him in a minute.
I’m sure this is going to sound flighty – after all, I was just giddy about the FOF a few days ago. In hindsight, I think the passion with the FOF was definitely alcohol-fueled. Yes, he sent a nice follow-up e-mail the next day – and after a few exchanges, we made tentative plans for a week from now. But you know how you just KNOW when a guy is into you, and is really psyched about seeing you again? I’m not feeling this from him. Still – he’s a nice guy, and I’m happy to keep him around for now – back-burner.
Other update: Fun Bobby. We had our third date this weekend – and while I like him, I don’t really “like him” like him. (have I just regressed 20 years?) This is a guy who IS making it quite clear that he “likes me” likes me: he told me how he thought about me all week… how he wanted to be in touch more, but knew I had a busy week… how he went back to my J-date profile to see what my interests were, so he could plan a fun date for us. Really, a sweet, nice guy. I’m just not feeling it the way he is.
I’ve been wondering if I should continue to see him – and I don’t see why not, at least for now. He hasn’t come right out to ask how I’m feeling about him, or if I’d want to date exclusively. He has commented that he sensed I was “holding back”… I simply said that I like to take my time in getting to know someone. (true) Hey – if he asks anything else, I’ll certainly be truthful. But I can't help but wonder -- am I leading him on?
Quick update: Neighbor Dude – had one date last weekend, after which I wondered if he was my “type”, but would have gone on a second date to see. He never called after that – just as well.
Then there’s Good Voice. I just realized, I never wrote about our second date from last week. It was a great combo of a very nice restaurant, followed by a fun dive bar. I like a guy who can appreciate both. He e-mailed the next day, saying he’d had a lovely time – and asked if he could cook dinner for me next time.
This weekend was that “next time” – and let’s just say, I’m still smiling. We had a fabulous time, without drinking TOO much, so thankfully, any connection there was not necessarily alcohol-fueled. He’s smart, funny, cool, cultured – and yes, a good cook.
No sleepover. No “sexytime”, though there was enough of a connection where I sensed it would be really good – I had to keep reminding myself, anticipation is sexy!
I’m almost in the mindset where I feel that I could be happy dating just him right now – there seems to be strong interest from his end as well (he pretty much said as much). But I know myself – in order to stay level-headed, I need to stay distracted. And that means dating other guys. So I’ll continue to do just that – but I’m especially looking forward to my next date with him, later this week.
Question: given the situation with Fun Bobby – what would your advice be? It’s pretty clear that he’s into me more than I’m into him – and I like another guy (Good Voice) who seems to be into me as well, though it’s too soon to tell where it might go. I can’t help but wonder if I should stop seeing Fun Bobby – I certainly don’t want to lead him on. BUT, he hasn’t come right out and asked if we could date exclusively – if he did, I’d be honest, and say that I didn’t feel that way about him.
OR – could it be that I’m just overthinking all this, as usual?