It was an interesting weekend – kissed two different guys (both of whom I’ve kissed before) – and had a date with a third guy (that did not involve a kiss).
First – a Good on Paper update: after the misunderstanding re: the night we were to meet, as I mentioned, he apologized profusely, asking if he could make it up to me by taking me out to dinner, any place I liked.
Maybe because it was almost September 11th – it felt petty to hold a grudge over what may have indeed been a simple misunderstanding – after all, who hasn’t made a mistake? I e-mailed him back along the lines of “these things happen”, and sure, let’s try to reschedule.
He wrote back something quite sweet and self-effacing, and asked when was the best time to call me? That’s a pet peeve of mine – my feeling is, don’t ask when to call – just call!
Still, I gave him a suggested day and time, and he did call during that time. But I happened to be busy and missed his call. When I called him back, I got his voicemail.
I’m at the point where I’m really curious to meet this guy – but if it doesn’t happen, no sweat. I only have one possible night in which I could meet him this week -- if we don't get together then, I'm going to take this as a sign that this is just not meant to happen.
In other news:
Friday’s kiss was short and sweet – it was with a guy I’ll simply call Guy Friend. He’s one of my few guy friends who knows about, and reads, this blog.
Interesting history with GF: we met on J-date about two years ago, but after a few dates, we realized that while we enjoyed each other’s company, there just wasn’t enough of a spark to keep it going. And that was that.
Until a few months (or a year?) later – GF contacted me to ask advice on a country I had just traveled to, and he was thinking of visiting. We met for lunch to discuss, and our friendship picked up from there.
Over time, we became a sounding board for each other’s dating woes – I value his opinion, and was happy to give him advice as well. We tend to meet out for drinks with other friends – but for some reason, a month or so ago, we met for drinks, just the two of us. And somehow ended up kissing. Despite the fact that we’re “just friends”, it didn’t feel at all awkward or uncomfortable. (GF, if you’re reading this – and I’m sure you are! – you’re a very good kisser. I’m sure I’ve mentioned that already).
Some time later -- not sure how this came up – we created a pact that, if we were both single and celibate in a month’s time, we’d consider sleeping together. Flirty, fun e-mails were exchanged.
Not long after that, we went on a group hike, which included swimming in a lake – we managed to have a few discreet kisses in there as well – but after, went back to “friend mode” for the rest of the hike. That’s when I realized this was just a bit too weird for me – if I’m going to kiss someone and continue to hang out with them, I can’t just shut off that intimacy.
I realized that “the pact” probably wasn’t a good idea – I couldn’t exactly sleep with him, then ask about his upcoming date for the weekend. I told him my reasons for calling it off - - he agreed, the potential for things to get awkward was there.
On Friday, we met up with other friends for drinks – and well, what can I say, he looked particularly cute that night. Some mild flirting – I walked him outside when he left, and we snuck in a few kisses before he went on his way.
(I’m rambling… will sum up the rest of the weekend in a few short snippets).
Last night’s kiss: Fun Bobby – met up with me and a few friends – he walked me home, and we shared a few kisses outside my door. He’s a nice guy, I enjoy kissing him every so often, but I just don’t feel that he’s “my” guy. (Fun Bobby recaps here)
Then -- date #117: Super Cutie. We’d been e-mailing for over a month, but because of hectic schedules (mainly mine) only had a chance to meet today, for brunch.
Interesting – just like Possible, last month (update on him to follow) – when I looked up Super Cutie on Facebook, I discovered that we knew someone in common (one of the many reasons why I love Facebook!). That gave it more of a personal touch than most anonymous internet dates.
I enjoyed his company – we had plenty to talk about, especially because we work in similar fields – and I especially enjoyed looking at him. Adorable face, and great smile. Was there a connection? Hard to tell. We hugged goodbye, and he suggested getting together later this week – so we’ll see.
Possible: remember him, from last month? We never “officially” ended things – but it seems that there’s really no need to. Our e-mails simply grew less and less frequent. No need to state the obvious.
New guy, haven’t thought of a blog name for him yet: been e-mailing for a week or so, as he’s out of town for work. He gives VERY good e-mail – he’s funny and charming – we have plans to meet up later in the week. I’m realistic enough to know that an online connection doesn’t always translate to in-person connection – but this is one date I’m really looking forward to, a nice departure from my usual ambivalence.