I've been telling my guy friend (known here as, you got it, Guy Friend) for ages that he needs to start a dating blog. Not only does he go on many more dates than I do, his tend to be a bit more risque -- and I love hearing his stories from a guy's point of view.
He finally did it! Please visit his new blog -- appropriately titled Guy Friend. (awww, my very own spinoff, like "Joanie Loves Chachi" or "Joey"!)
Our views sometimes differ -- and we've discussed this in person. For example (as you'll read in his first post) -- he feels that after only a date or two, it's OK to simply do the "fade away" if you're not interested in the other person (aka, the Disappearing Act, aka Dropping Off the Face of the Earth).
I feel that if there's obviously no connection on the first date from both parties, then the mutual fade is fine. BUT, I think that if one party has contacted the other after the date, expressing interest to go out again, it's up to the disinterested party to somehow say, "thanks, but no thanks". He feels that the disinterested party can still do the fade away at that point... even if he's on the receiving end.
I have a very interesting WTF update: we had a second date, and while I was skeptical going in, I wound up having a very nice time. I'm not sure if our mutual friend mentioned anything to him... or maybe he just paid for everything on the second date because he simply wanted to? (we went for dinner and a movie -- since he'd already paid for dinner, I offered to get the movie... he insisted, "I've got it"). We then went out for dessert, and he was about to pay for that as well, but I insisted that he let me take care of it.
He's very sweet, cute and smart. Was there chemistry? Hard to tell... I was coming down with a cold, so I wasn't really in a mindset to focus on that. If I hear from him, I'd see him again. Stay tuned!
(at the moment, I'm more excited about Recurring -- some mildly flirty e-mails and texts this weekend means I'm especially looking forward to our next date, later this week).