Monday, April 20, 2009

Back in dating land.

During my ten-day business trip, I was so busy that I barely had time to think about guys and dating. In hindsight, it was very refreshing.

Before the trip, I had another date with each of the two guys who are currently in the picture: Martin and Mr Easy. They're both very nice guys, in different ways, but I think I feel more of a connection with Martin. There just seems to be more of a "click" there -- perhaps it's no coincidence that he's the one who communicated more frequently while I was away.

I have plans to see both of them later in the week, and I think I'll re-evaluate after the next date with each. I think it would be too soon to exclusively date Martin -- but at the same time, it doesn't feel right to continually date (and kiss) another guy. Obviously, I have no idea what he's up to -- for all I know, he could be planning a fifth date with another woman at this time. I just have to do what feels right for me.

If I did end things with Mr Easy, I think it would be a rather smooth break. We've had a fun time together, but I get a whiff of casual from him.

More eloquent writing next time... brain is still muddled from jetlag!

7 comments:

walt said...

I think there's a subtle but important difference between dating only one person and being exclusive with someone. You may choose to date only Martin now because Mr. Easy is not a good enough candidate to be worth further time investment. However, that doesn't necessarily mean you're exclusive - if someone great came along you'd be open to it. An "exclusive" relationship means you're not supposed to be open to new people. That requires a talk and an agreement that you both want to be exclusive. You're not there yet, even if it turns out that Martin is the only one you're dating.

Loverville said...

Well said!

It's a tough situation: while I'd like to get to know Martin better, I worry that if I'm only dating him, it'll be harder to turn down the crazy, and not overthink the situation.

Saying that... it's still early. I need to get back to "business trip" mode, where I wasn't focusing on any of this!

Anonymous said...

Hey, LV, what's been happening with your friend Cute Jewess? She hasn't posted in half a year. Has she given up dating or given up the blog? Poor thing seemed to get ever more discouraged as time went on -- understandably so!

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