A guy named Walt recently posed a question in the comments section -- he was dating two women at once, and wasn't quite sure how to go about it. It spurred quite a heated discussion here -- I've never had so many comments on one post!
Walt, I'm currently in a similar situation -- saying that, I don't know how far along you were with both your dates. I've only had three dates each with these two guys.
Mr Easy: we had another date since I last wrote. Lots of laughs. He remains funny and smart. Not sure how much of a "romantic" vibe I'm getting from him, but maybe it's too soon to tell?
Martin: talk about unexpected! Background: I wrote here that Martin and I had a first date, now over a month ago. In the weeks that followed, we exchanged a few texts, e-mails and calls -- admittedly, we both flaked a bit on each other.
Finally had a second (and a third) date this past week. This was one of those very, very rare times that I felt the first date was just okay, but the second was absolutely great. The third as well. I *do* get a warm, romantic vibe from this guy (but not inappropriately sappy for this early stage).
I don't think I necessarily need to "choose" at this point -- and as a wise friend once said to me, these things have a way of working themselves out. On one hand, I'd like to get to know each of these guys a little better -- but at the same time, I don't want to pull the rug out from under anyone.
I'm happy that I actually have an opportunity to hit the "pause" button on both of these: later this week, I'll be going out of town for work for a week and a half. I'll just see what correspondence is like with each of these guys while I'm away, and think about it when I get home.
Walt, if you're still out there, would love to hear what's going on in your world, with your two "lady friends"!