Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Ten years later...

Just got in from a truly fabulous first date -- with a guy I initially met ten years ago.

Details to come...

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Here we go again.....anyone interested in wagering how long this one is going to last?

Loverville said...

Is that Negative Nestor again? My, you must have a sad life -- why so pessimistic?

Lifebegunsat30ty said...

Wow, what's with all the negativity, anonymous?

I'm excited for you! And want to hear all about it! :D

MARC said...

These anonymous commenters remind me of the guys who try and "convert" gay people, and then get caught trolling for dudes on rentboy.com. Your blog and your dating life are so heinous to them, but they can't stop reading or commenting.

mimi of sexagenarian and the city said...

Hey L'ville, I'm glad you're back in nyc & writing about it. The dating blogs I read are disappearing at a great rate, and I still have an appetite for them (having ended my own), so keep on keeping on.

Anonymous said...

Like Mimi, I have a keen appetite for dating blogs. They never get old! (Even though I had given up on dating and yet found a great guy in spite of myself.)

Hey, I guess I should switch to wedding planning blogs. Ugh. They are nowhere near as interesting. And they creep me out. Acquisitive women actually debate Tiffany vs. Cartier. Then someone chimes in about Van Cleef. It kind of makes me retch. We are getting married in late summer.

The 10-year guy is a much better bet than the online guys. He is a real-life guy as well as someone you have a history with. I await details.

--PT

Anonymous said...

Another anonymous: Negative Nestor: Not pessimistic, a realist. I just need to look back the hundred other guys you dated to know this one is not different. You have not learned anything-you get 'giddy', you 'smooch', you know this 'fits'....but you have learned nothing. Sorry heard this before.. and it's a little pathetic. Oh, and I am a married and in an amazing relationship and have been for 10 years. We both read this blog..so I write for the both of us. We think of it as a social experiment (we are both professors). Sorry Loverville, you need to wake up. This cheerleading blog is not doing you any favors.

Loverville said...

Negative Nestor: actually, you're wrong on several counts. This blog HAS been an asset for me, on several different levels:
* it's provided an outlet where I can vent about the challenges of dating in New York
* it's made me realize: I'm not alone in this situation. Far from it.
* I've discovered a wonderful community here, and made some real-life friends as a result.

For the record, I'm not dating for the sake of the blog -- I'm dating for myself, to meet someone I care about, who cares about me.

What do you consider "pathetic"? Should I give up, and not date any longer, and lose hope about meeting someone special? To me, that would just be sad.

Really -- I'd be happy to give you the opportunity to say something constructive. Rather than tell me how pathetic I am, what would YOUR suggestion be for me to meet someone special? What am I doing wrong here? Should I NOT get excited about someone whose company I enjoy?

I'm all ears.

Anonymous said...

Negative Nestor: How about not "smooching "on the first date? A little mystery may be good. They may be thinking-great, I will get her in bed next time. And on that note, how about not sleeping with them so quickly and holding back a bit? Guys will think that you have been giving it away to everyone and that is not attractive. How about not talking to them about where the relationship is going so quickly? Chill out and have fun. They should be chasing you. They can probably feel your desperation. You are probably point by point, discount everything I am saying and say how wrong I am, blah blah. But I hope you don't. I hope you listen and think about what I am saying.