Sunday, June 20, 2010

Hair crush... and then, this

I may have mentioned here before -- I just love a guy with a full, thick head of hair -- that's just my "thing".

I was on the road for work this week, and one guy I was working with had just that kind of hair. I briefly crushed on... those lush, full follicles. He was a pretty good-looking guy, but it was the hair that got me. Anyway, I know better than to hit on a co-worker, and soon realized his personality wasn't really my type anyway. But oh... that hair.

I've also been swooning a bit over this guy -- I'm a new fan of GLEE, having watched all the episodes over the past few weeks.

Then there's Jon Hamm (not the "real" Jon Hamm, but the guy I've been out with about 7 or 8 times) -- he has what one might determine a "pretty good" head of hair for a 40-something guy -- but with him, it's more about the whole picture. He is cute, but more important, he's warm, sweet, smart, affectionate. AND he thinks I'm beautiful, and tells me so.

Taking a slightly serious turn here right now - I can't go into details, but he seems to be having a bit of a medical "thing" going on at the moment. It's not as dire as cancer (heaven forbid) -- but it's more than a simple headache.

He's in the process of having some tests done. He's had to cancel at least one date with me because he wasn't feeling up to it. I completely understand that he probably has bigger things on his mind right now than thinking about anything to do with "us" (is there even an "us" yet, this early? It's been nearly a month since our first date).

Anyway. I've told him that I'm here to help in any way possible -- and right now, if that simply means sending along good wishes and funny YouTube links as a distraction, then so be it. He shows his appreciation by telling me things like, "you're as sweet as you are lovely.". (awww!)

I still don't want to date anyone else. I still have a good feeling about him... and I just know, in my gut, that he's going to be okay. Soon, I hope.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

New design.

Like it? I'm not as tech-y as most other bloggers, with their cool custom designs. But when Blogger offered up a few easy peasy new designs on a platter, this one called to me.

Update on Jon Hamm to come soon... I'm getting a slightly weird vibe from him today for the first time, and I hope that either, one, I'm wrong -- or, two, it passes. Details to come.

UPDATE: newer design. Simple, black text on light background. Better?

And... thankfully, the "weird vibe" I thought I was getting from Jon has passed. We met for a drink last night, and he brought up the fact that he's stressed with work... but seemed to be his sweet, fun self again. I'm going to see him at some point this weekend before I go out of town for the week.

What started off as rather giddy for both of us seems to have mellowed into a more realistic (but still warm) vibe.

To answer a question in the recent comments -- no, we haven't slept with each other yet. But we'll see what the vibe is like by the time I'm back from my trip -- by then, it'll be about a month since our first date... so... we shall see.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

What's this "calm" I'm feeling??

I had another wonderful date with Jon Hamm this week, bringing us up to four dates so far. The usual fun time: lots of talking, laughing, eating, drinking, smooching. It's still feeling fun and easy. By the end of the date, we had plans in place to see each other again a few days later.

The next day, I found myself thinking about him -- in the interest of taking things slowly and following his lead, I had decided to let him make contact next. That afternoon, he called. Yes, called. An old-fashioned phone call -- so rare in this day and age of texts and emails. It was just a call to say "hi". So refreshing.

When I told my best friend D about this, her response was, "I can't remember the last time a guy called me!". Isn't it funny / sad that this is what our expectations are these days?

Overall, I'm feeling really good about this guy, while realizing it's too soon to know anything. I'm much calmer than I normally am in this kind of situation, and it just feels good to NOT be stressing over him. It helps that he's sending encouraging vibes my way in between dates, in the form of sweet (but not treacly) calls and texts.

Earlier this year, I had decided that my dating motto for the year was going to be:

And that's exactly what I'm doing with him.

In the meantime: remember Francois, the adorable Frenchie? We had two dates a few weeks ago, just before I went out of town. After that time, he was rather flaky about being in touch, so I wrote him off.

He got back in touch this week. We talked about getting together to go biking, but then the weather didn't cooperate, so we canceled.

The next day I got a surprise text from him: he was offering me four free tickets for the show he works for -- but it had to be for that night. (I'd rather not write the actual name of the show here, but think "circus" and "sun"). I wrangled a few friends, and off we went.

The show was enjoyable enough, and he gave us a backstage tour after. A part of me was hoping he'd be able to hang out for a drink, but he had a friend's going-away party that he had to go to. We made plans (once again) to go biking the next day -- plans that he called to cancel because of a work conflict. And he's leaving town in a few days, so that would have been our last chance to see each other.

While I found myself swooning after seeing him again, my friend C offered up the wise words that while Francois would have been just a fun boy toy, Jon is "real life". That works for me.

AND... I finally got around to emailing both Sparky and Austin Powers, stretching the truth somewhat by saying I'd reconnected with someone from my past, and would like to see where it might go. Gracious replies by each. I'm glad to have both those chapters closed -- both were very nice guys, but "the" feeling just wasn't there.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Getting off the dating carousel.

Since my first date with Jon last week, we had another wonderful evening together -- a picnic in the park -- plus a quick coffee just before I went out of town for the weekend.

It / he just feels... right. Way too soon to tell where this might go, but right now, I'm enjoying the ride. I'm very excited to get to know him better, and he seems equally giddy as well. Saying that -- while his emails and texts have been quite enthusiastic, I'm trying to keep mine a bit more subdued. If this continues, there will be time for that. Later.

I must say, he gives VERY good email! While I was away over the weekend, we exchanged a few emails and texts. He's funny, smart, sweet and flirty. Definitely made me excited about seeing him again -- we have plans later this week.

In the meantime, I've decided to get off the dating merry-go-round that I've been riding of late. This isn't to say that I've decided to date him exclusively... I just don't want to date anyone else right now. It feels really good to have more time to go out with my friends, or just more time alone.

I still have to officially cancel things with Sparky -- after five dates, I feel that I should do this via phone, which seems more courteous than email. Still, I keep postponing it -- I hate making this type of call, though I'm sure he won't exactly be heartbroken. Chances are, he won't even be surprised -- I canceled our date last week, and cut short the one prior to it.

I can't wait to see Jon again. Am trying not to think about him too much. Trying to stay distracted, and *not* continuously reread his emails and texts. Trying.